Anger is one of the strongest emotions human beings feel. It’s important to understand that everyone gets angry from time to time and this is perfectly acceptable. However, it’s the ways in which you manage and express that anger that makes a huge difference in the quality of your life and your relationships. Allowing your anger to take control of your life isn’t just unhealthy, it’s also physically and emotionally draining.
There are healthy ways of managing your anger that don’t involve suppressing or ignoring it. Anger management therapy can help you find ways to effectively express your anger and strategically apply these tactics to your everyday life. The first step in understanding and managing your anger is recognizing the symptoms that you may unknowingly be exhibiting.
Anger is often caused by environmental factors such as feeling as if things are going wrong in your life, feeling personally slighted by another person, or feeling overwhelmingly stressed. If you find that you have a chronic short fuse or temper even in situations that usually don’t faze other people, then this could be a sign that you need to seek help relating to your anger related difficulties.
Another sign that you may be experiencing difficulties with anger is if you’re easily irritable or always on edge. Sometimes, even the slightest sounds, such as someone clicking a pen or chewing loudly can be extremely irritating and cause you to lash out.
Lack or Loss of Patience
As the saying goes, “patience is a virtue” and those who experience difficulties with anger tend to lose their patience very easily. This is often a reactionary emotion that arises when dealing with particularly challenging or difficult situations.
Blaming Others for How You’re Feeling
The sentiment - “when you point one finger at others, you have three pointing back at you” is applicable to those experiencing challenges with their anger. Sometimes, internalized and deeper emotions can manifest themselves as anger that is directed towards others. In anger management counselling, you’ll be given the opportunity to explore these feelings, what might be causing them, and how they’re affecting your life and relationships with those who are close to you.
Verbal or Physical Aggression
People who endure high-stress or anxiety-inducing experiences in life sometimes express their emotions in a verbally or physically aggressive manner that can bring harm to either themselves or those around them. If this is something you can relate to, then anger management therapy can provide you with the tools you need to make changes while recognizing and understanding the emotions that connect to your anger. You will learn to express them in a way that’s mutually beneficial to you and the people in your life.
When your loved ones or friends are afraid to talk to you because they don’t want to trigger your anger, this should be an indication that you need to make some positive changes. Other people may feel like they’re constantly walking on eggshells when they’re around you for fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. At times, this can cause you to become alienated from your friends and family. The good news is that you can work toward strengthening your relationships with your loved ones by positively impacting your relationship with yourself first.
As a certified Canadian Counsellor, Psychotherapist-Q, and Registered Social Worker, I’ve worked with countless clients over the years to help them better manage their emotions and express them appropriately. I offer compassionate, caring, and in-depth counselling services through my practice at Growth Counselling Services. Schedule an appointment with me, Rick Defoe, today!