Divorce counselling isn’t necessarily meant to bring couples back together or convince them to reconcile their differences. Rather, the point of divorce counselling is to help families find healthy and useful coping mechanisms for what could often be a very difficult situation. Through in-depth counselling, I can help you, your soon-to-be former spouse, and your children find a better way to understand and express the emotions that are related to the changes that are taking place in your family. Here are a few noteworthy benefits of divorce and separation counselling.
Provides a Different Perspective
In situations like this, it’s perfectly natural and even easy for most people to only see one side of the story: their own. Oftentimes, our natural instinct is to blame everyone else involved for what went wrong without stopping to think about how our own actions and words affect others. Relationships are extremely complex and require a lot of work from all parties involved. Even though your marriage might be over, that doesn’t mean you can’t have an amicable divorce. Taking the time to listen to what your spouse, your children, and other family members have to say can help you gain a new and more rational perspective on the situation.
Mediation and Negotiations
Engaging in an open conversation with the help of a qualified mediator can help you and your family members gain the perspective and valuable insights you need to move on and rebuild your relationships. Each person will be given the opportunity to speak and explain their viewpoints to the best of their abilities. Following that, each person will also be given the chance to respond to everyone else’s comments. The point of therapy after divorce or during the divorce process is to make sure that everyone has a chance to speak and express their opinions in a healthy and respectful way.
Coping with Changing Family Dynamics
In situations like this, the children—especially young kids—are usually the ones who suffer the most. They often blame themselves for their parents’ divorce, even though they really had nothing to do with it. For that reason, it’s important to establish an open and honest conversation with your kids to truly explain to them what’s going on and why you and your partner are no longer together. Counselling can also help you establish a new and improved family dynamic that’s centered around you and your partner co-parenting your children while maintaining a positive attitude and respect for one another.
Handling Emotional and Mental Stress
During this very difficult and stressful time, I’m sure you and your partner are facing a great deal of emotional and mental stress. I completely understand that and I’m here to help you find ways of dealing with whatever it is you’re feeling. The first step is identifying those emotions, whether you’re angry, sad, depressed, anxious, or irritated. Divorce can be a very stressful process from start to finish and that’s why divorce counselling can help you work though some of that stress.
Rebuilding Your Life Post-Divorce
After your divorce is finalized, you may be wondering, “Where do I go from here?”. There’s no clear or universal answer to this question because everyone’s path is different. With that said, there’s always plenty of hope that you can rebuild your life after an emotionally trying divorce as long as you choose to make the effort.
At Growth Counselling Services, I can help you and your family learn to cope with your changing circumstances after divorce. I offer extensive counselling for separation and have worked with many families over the years to help them cope with their circumstances and make positive changes in their lives. To learn more about my services and how I can help you, please feel free to contact me, Rick Defoe.